How to Get Women to Kick You in the Balls: Why 90% Say Yes When You Actually Ask
- PUN B.
- 7 hours ago
- 7 min read
We posted what seemed like a vulnerable question to the ballbusting community: "Men: Have You Ever Asked a Woman to Kick You? How Did It Go?"
Given our previous research on the fantasy vs. reality gap showing most men experience zero kicks in real life, we expected stories of rejection, awkwardness, and failed attempts..
What we got instead? A success rate that would shock most people - and insights into female psychology that completely flip common assumptions.
The Surprising Truth: Women Say Yes... A Lot
One response cut straight to the core: "Whenever I'd asked a woman or tell a woman about my wish for being ballbusted, 90% of them say yes!"
Ninety percent.
Let that sink in. The common narrative is that this is a taboo, difficult conversation that will end in rejection or judgment. But according to actual experience? Nine out of ten women agree when directly asked.
Another man confirmed: "I asked my girlfriend to beat and kick me. She jumped at the offer. She told me 'I would love to beat the shit out of a man'. It was glorious!"
She didn't hesitate. She didn't need convincing. She was enthusiastic about the opportunity.
As we noted in response: "Most guys here won't believe how many women would jump immediately at the offer. At least in my experience in college it was so."
The gap between perception and reality couldn't be wider.
The Success Stories: When She Said Yes
The responses revealed a clear pattern: when men actually worked up the courage to ask, women were surprisingly willing.
The Party Story
One man described asking a girl at a high school party who had kicked another guy during beer pong. After discussing that incident, he was drunk enough to actually ask for it himself.
Her response? She happily obliged and "was really sweet and assured me not to be embarrassed about it."
Even years later, despite his own embarrassment about asking, he acknowledged: "It was fun."
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The Stripper Experiences
Multiple men reported asking strippers with consistent success. One simply stated: "I asked a stripper and she happily obliged."
Another provided a humorous detail: "I've asked a few strippers some refuse one girl tried and fell I never laughed so hard in all my life."
The inability to actually land the kick became comedy rather than disappointment. As he noted: "So many girls can't actually kick it's pretty funny I think I enjoy the humor and fun more than the pain but when they do connect seeing their smile and laugh is amazing."
That smile and laugh when she connects - the genuine enjoyment - that's what makes it memorable.
The Girlfriend Experiences
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Men who asked girlfriends reported mixed but often positive results:
"My first [ex] loved to crush my balls, she loved to kick them. My second ex didn't like kicking them much, but she did like to squeeze them really hard and bite them."
Both women engaged, just with different preferences for how. The willingness was there; the methods varied.
Why Women Say Yes: The Psychology
The responses revealed something fascinating about female motivation. When that girlfriend said "I would love to beat the shit out of a man," she wasn't being cruel - she was expressing genuine curiosity about a power dynamic society usually denies women.
Many women are curious about:
Having permission to use force without consequences
Exploring male vulnerability in a controlled way
The reversal of typical power dynamics
His reactions and the control she has over them
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The 10% who declined? Their reasoning was telling: "They need my dick to work properly, so they don't want to destroy it."
Fear of causing damage, not moral objection. And as one commenter corrected: "Busting balls doesn't do anything to your dick... You could lose your nuts completely and still have a working dick as long as you've got the hormones."
Even the medical myths work against men getting what they want.
The Failed Attempts: When She Said No
Only a handful of responses reported outright refusal:
"I asked she refused to do it"
"A few times I did with girls I was dating and I got the same answer 'I'm too afraid I am going to hurt you.'"
The common thread in refusals? Fear of causing harm, not disgust or judgment. These women weren't rejecting the idea because it was weird - they were worried about injuring their partner.
This is actually a solvable problem. As one experienced commenter advised: "If the guy is smart you ask to start lighter and increase the strength of the kick after and ask her to do it without shoes to minimize the effect."
The women who refused weren't fundamentally unwilling - they needed reassurance and a safer starting point.
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The Regrets: Opportunities Missed
Perhaps the saddest responses came from men who had opportunities but didn't take them:
"I turned down an offer from a friend. She was totally down, but I wasn't in a place where I could openly talk about the kink... Whenever she comes back to town I will definitely see if she still wants to take a crack at them."
She offered. He refused because he couldn't admit what he wanted. Now he's waiting for another chance.
Multiple men expressed wanting to ask friends, coworkers, or specific women but lacking the courage:
"I would like to ask some of my friends but I don't have the courage and I don't know how to do it"
"I'm afraid it might seem strange to them, because they've known me for years and I don't know how they'd react."
The fear of judgment keeps more men from experiencing this than actual female unwillingness.
How to Actually Bring It Up
The most practical question emerged repeatedly: "How do you even bring that up or lead the conversation in that direction?"
Our suggestion: "Tell her about the one time it happened to you."
Frame it as a story, not a request. Let her curiosity develop naturally. If she's intrigued by your reaction or asks questions, that's your opening.
Another commenter added wisdom: "This sounds like 'pre-nut' wishing. I don't recommend it with a stranger but someone you wind up dating will likely oblige but definitely don't come out the gate fast with it."
Timing and context matter. The stripper scenarios worked because the context was already sexually open. The girlfriend scenarios worked because trust existed. Random approaches to acquaintances? Much riskier.
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The Technical Realities
An interesting subplot emerged: many women can't actually kick effectively.
"It's amazing how many have such bad aim. I've ended up with bruised thighs many times."
The fantasy assumes competence. The reality? Many women have never kicked anything with force in their lives.
One response revealed a common problem: women going too light when they know you want it.
"A lot [of women] think with even a half strength kick the guy will be on the ground crying... I do not think it hurts nearly as bad as most people think."
Women overestimate the pain and underdeliver, leaving men disappointed. The solution? Starting lighter and building up, with feedback throughout.
The Emotional Complexity
One response captured the emotional paradox many men experience:
"Yeah, it's sort of funny how embarrassed I am and will never speak about this matter publicly but several women have obliged at some level."
He's gotten multiple women to participate, yet he still can't talk about it openly. The shame and secrecy persist even after repeated success.
That disconnect - between private reality (women saying yes) and public shame (can't admit wanting it) - defines much of the community's experience.
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What This Means for Men Still Asking
If you're reading this and haven't asked yet, the data is clear:
Your chances are better than you think. Way better.
90% success rate when directly asking. Even the "failures" were often fear-based and potentially salvageable with the right approach.
Women are more curious than you assume. The girlfriend who "would love to beat the shit out of a man" isn't an outlier - she just said out loud what many women think quietly.
Your fear is the biggest obstacle. Not her judgment. Not social stigma. Your own courage to ask.
The man who turned down his friend's offer and now waits for her to come back to town? Don't be that guy. The opportunities don't always circle back.
What This Means for Women
If you're a woman reading this and a man has hinted at or directly asked for this:
He's probably terrified. That vulnerability in asking is real. Even the men who reported success still felt embarrassed years later.
Your willingness means more than your technique. Bad aim, too-light kicks, falling over trying - all of these were recounted with humor and affection, not disappointment.
Your genuine reaction matters most. The smile when you connect. The laugh. The curiosity. That's what he'll remember, not whether you executed perfect form.
Starting light is fine. You're not going to break him. And the men who know what they're doing will ask you to gradually increase force anyway.
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The Uncomfortable Question: Why Aren't More Men Asking?
Given the 90% success rate, why do most men in the community report zero real-life experiences?
The responses revealed the answer: Most aren't asking.
They're fantasizing. They're listing women they wish they'd asked. They're waiting for perfect circumstances. They're paralyzed by fear of awkwardness.
Meanwhile, the men who actually asked - even drunk at parties, even with strippers, even with "too afraid to hurt you" girlfriends - got results.
The fantasy vs. reality gap isn't primarily about female unwillingness. It's about male inaction.
The Takeaway
We asked if men had ever asked women to kick them. The responses revealed:
Women say yes at shocking rates (90% in one man's experience)
Female enthusiasm exists ("I would love to beat the shit out of a man")
Fear of harm, not judgment, drives most refusals
Opportunities get missed due to courage, not opportunity
The shame persists even after success
Technical incompetence is common but doesn't ruin the experience
For a community supposedly defined by scarcity and difficulty accessing real experiences, the actual data suggests a different story: Ask, and you'll probably receive.
The question isn't whether women will say yes. It's whether you'll ask.
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